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Successful Living – To Fear or Not to Fear?

Hey guys it’s me again,

So I’ve been thinking about fear. What is fear really? Why does it show up? How can we get rid of it? Are there any signs to know it’s coming?

I have to confess, these thoughts and questions came up because even though I’ve posted for a few months I still take a long time before I hit that publish button! Why?  You may be asking. well if you have read any of my earlier posts you know I write about my life experiences, thoughts etc. It’s basically me inside out in cyber space for all to read.

I don’t know how others do it daily but it has had me pausing lengthily between posts. Now I do write on paper but it takes a bit for it to get into cyber space. It’s quite okay when you look okay on the outside and no one knows your thoughts or experiences. However quite another when there is a continuous exposure of your thoughts feelings and mistakes for people you know and don’t know to see.

Now when I put my thoughts down on paper it seems to help a lot, but really Lord can’t I still write about skin care or may be weight loss and publish those? …… okay does that silence on the matter mean no ?

So another confession… every time I write I get that inner……. you know… satisfaction? Every time I write I know I move closer to that place that I am going but don’t know the address for. I just know it’s where I need to go.

So many times we choose to stay at the wrong address. We choose to not do the things that will take us out of our comfort zones and into the unknown. We can never be fully satisfied in comfort zone, something will always be missing.  Only purpose will bring you that thing that you are looking for.

Every time I hit that publish button I expose myself some more, but I also learn more about myself in the process of writing.

I read somewhere that you overcome fear by doing that which you are fearful of.

I’ve heard many speakers,writers and successful persons in general that say fear always shows up anytime something new is about to be attempted.

What is fear?

dictionary.com says fear is :

  • a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc.,whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
  • something that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; something person is afraid of.
  • to consider or anticipate (something unpleasant) with a feeling of dread or alarm.
  • Some say False Evidence Appearing Real.
  • Others say it’s a story you told yourself about something that may happen in the future.

 

  • I remember one speaker saying if you are going to do something new and it does not scare you then you are aiming too low set new goals!
 cartoons showing fear
Why does it show up anyway?

Does it sense we are about to make a life changing move?

That someone or something is going to be forever changed because of us? Maybe it realises we will mend a broken relationship by finally speaking our true feelings to that person.

I think it shows up because it can and most people don’t let it know it’s not welcome.

Questions to ponder:
  • Are you afraid of doing or of what others may say because of what you are doing?
  • Is it fear of standing out? Not looking like everyone else around you?
  • Are thinking you can’t make a difference, it’s too small to count or too little to matter?
  • Are you depriving us of your gift and blaming it on fear? Don’t use fear as an excuse not to do, it really loves that!
  • Remember instances when you were blessed by someone’s book, speech, smile, word of encouragement, meal, blog post, hug, gift, movie etc. ( I could go on) how did you feel when you received it?  Again who is waiting on you? Who has prayed and said there must be an answer but you refuse to see what you have to offer as of great value.
Overcoming Fear
  • Make small moves daily forward.
  • Release your fear and hold on to your desire/passion
  • Is your perspective correct? My pastor asked us last week : “Are you looking at your life through clean lens?” Are you looking with the right information? Do you need better or more info?
  • According to NIKE “Just do it!” – it often comes down to this one for me. I have to end up just jumping in already! When you do you wonder what you were making all that fuss for!
  • Surrounding yourself with persons who will speak positively into your life is always a plus.
  • Speak to yourself, for goodness sake let your voice be louder than what fear is saying. (I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!) check out my earlier post I declare. I feel like I can fly sometimes when I’m done.
  • What are you feeding yourself? Is it I can or I can’t?
  • Study people who did what you want to do and succeeded. Success leaves clues.
  • Let it know whether it shows up or not it does not alter the decision already made to move forward.
  • When I face things that cause me to feel fear I try to remember past instances when I thought I couldn’t do something but I did and succeeded or maybe I failed (at least I had the guts to try!).
  • Commit to do. Plan and execute. I commit to writing two blog posts every month for the next 3 months and then once per week.

Now you may be saying:  Really Jiselle that’s it? Those things are so easy to write, I need real things I can do! I promise you can do what you have said you can’t using what I’ve written above.

So are you going to wait for fear to leave? or are you going to do that thing anyway with fear standing next to you ?

Take back that power you have given to that four letter word and use it to propel you forward.

Remember the presence of fear does not mean you can’t do.

So I urge you today to do that which you have delayed to do. Be the change agent you have been called to be. Let your voice be heard.

Hit that publish button continually! I promise with every step it gets easier to hit publish once you let go of fear and focus on purpose.  Don’t miss the opportunity for new and better things by staying in that safe mediocre lane, instead launch out for big! God bless!!

Successful Living – I Declare

Hey guys,

Happy Holy week to all.  The words ‘I declare’ have been doing a dance in  my mind for some time. I’ve been thinking on the importance of speaking positively to yourself daily and declaring what you want to see in your life. This has admittedly been on my mind since last year and I probably would have done better if I had continued practicing it daily.

Life is such that sometimes it’s a battle just to stay positive.
Lets face it, if you don’t talk to yourself that might be the only positive thing you hear for the day. Sometimes we find ourselves hiding from people, well….. I do at least! haha!!!  I just really don’t want you to mess up my day by me having to unnecessarily fight off your negative comments. The negativity becomes so much a part of some people, it’s all they speak and when you say no they get upset and say it again. Look …if you want to keep your negative thoughts you are welcome to them but really I don’t have to agree with you!

So usually when I get a statement or scripture that really resonates with me I would write it on paper and read it out loud, sometimes every morning or when I feel the need to. I have found that when I arm myself with this weapon I am most likely not to fall into the trap of agreeing with negative comments or speaking negatively myself.

There are often little things we do daily that keep us moving forward intentionally. We sometimes don’t realise until we stop doing them and wake up where we don’t want to be.  I believe intentional living is important. Someone told me recently I think too much. I will definitely have to disagree, it is only when I stop thinking and just live I get results I don’t want. I am seeing more and more the things I did that I took for granted are the things that kept me going. They kept me fighting the issues of life, and kept me afloat on my journey.

What have you stopped doing that is vital to you living life effectively? The bible says that David encouraged himself in the Lord. Are you encouraging yourself daily or depending on others to do it for you? Often when situations arose I would automatically hear one of the scriptures I had written in my head, helping me push and move past the situation.

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Some Declarations or Statements I use
  • I HAVE THE VICTORY
  • GREATER IS HE THAT IS WITHIN ME THAN HE THAT IS                                                   IN THE WORLD
  • MY CIRCUMSTANCE IS NOT BEYOND GOD’S ABILITY
  • IF IT IS TO BE ITS UP TO ME
  • FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION
  • I WAS BUILT TO LAST
  • TODAY IS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE

Being focused and strategic is important to living successfully. Get to know who you are so you can be that person. Know what it takes to be you and stay on the path you have chosen. I choose to be more aware of myself. This is just one of the things I do to keep myself moving forward. What are some of the things you say to yourself or declare?

As I continue to think on my life and as I listen to God’s word I try to align my life with His word. God’s word is truth and life. The truth is admittedly sometimes hard to swallow because it forces you to admit your errors. You have to admit you were wrong accept the truth and move forward in truth.

 I continue to press because I am determined to win. Though I may have fallen and stumbled many times I refuse to give up. I have read since my childhood that there is life in Christ. I am determined to reach to the place where I can say I finished the race.

God bless!

Successful Living – Get Up & Move On!

Hey guys,

So it’s been a while, so many things have happened since I last showed up. I’ve started a few new ventures, rearranged the blog a little and that which I feared the most came upon me.

In turning 37, I was pretty comfortable with me and who I was at that time. I was happy, healthy and free!  But somewhere along the way I gave up my new inner peace and joy. Thoughts which should not have been allowed to stay in my mind and be comfortable were left to be meditated on and become a part of me even though it was not me. I distinctly remember one particular thought “Why are you so happy?” there was an accusatory tone to the question as though I had no right to be happy! Sure enough after a few attempts, I stupidly choose to let that thought affect me and how I operated. Once that one got in ‘you are lonely’ showed up along with a few others and I let the door open for whoever else wanted to come in.

I heard someone say your thoughts spill out into your actions. If you are telling yourself you can’t then sure enough you will not.  So for far too long, even though there were many life lines thrown my way I choose to stay in that place instead of moving on and rejecting the thoughts that came to me.

Many times we say we can’t or don’t know how we got ourselves in certain situations but if we think back I am certain we can see clearly where we dropped the ball.

In living we must remember that the battlefield is truly in our mind. Once someone can influence your thoughts they influence your life. Guarding your mind is important to make sure you live successfully.

WHAT DID I LEARN & REMEMBER ? 
  • GUARD YOUR THOUGHTS                                                                                                                                                                                                         You cannot accept every thought that pops up in your mind as your own. It is your responsibility to choose to think on things that are good.
  1. Philippians 4:8 says: And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

    If you apply this scripture it really helps to guard your mind and heart. It keeps you on a positive road of thinking and actively choosing what you think about.

  • ASK FOR HELP!

There is no shame in telling someone you trust that you are not feeling your usual self. There must be someone in your life that you trust and can speak to, not necessarily to give advice but just to listen.

  • DO NOT TAKE YOURSELF FOR GRANTED

Sometimes we do everything else under the sun but look within. Busy with living but not actually living life, letting life live us. Doing things should never be allowed to be more important than being whole and healthy.

  • BE TRUE

Always take time to be true to yourself and where you are at. If you are not true to yourself then you are lying to yourself and everyone around you. Look back for a refresher! Be true

  • DON’T DELAY

In staying where you shouldn’t be you are not only harming yourself but others that are connected to you. You are unnecessarily putting your life in reverse. The longer you take to get up the more opportunities you miss and the more junk you have to get rid of.  Who is waiting on you to get your act together?

  •  DON’T IGNORE THE HELP!

God provides the help we need, the bible says He provides a way of escape. For goodness sake, don’t ignore it then say you don’t know what to do. Too many times we choose to stay broken and not take the help provided and get on with living. Help comes in many forms: sermons, videos, books, direct words of encouragement from someone. However it comes grab hold of it and use it to the fullest.

Moving on….

I’ve come to the place where I acknowledge life will be life, the difference is how we choose to see it on any given day and how we choose to live daily.  My Pastor asked me if my perception of my life is correct. I gave up the truth for a lie.

Is your perception of your life correct?

So easily sometimes we choose to give up the truth for a lie. Quite frankly I’m tired of making circles that take me back to where I don’t want to be. I am truly to old for it I don’t have the luxury of time anymore.  I have too much to do,to keep doing that. So once again I’ve chosen to get up and move from where I should not be and go in the direction of abundant life.

We must choose to live successfully daily by having a daily plan for improvement. If you are not moving forward you are automatically going backwards. It is our responsibility to decide how we live our lives, whether in victory or defeat.

Iaccept full responsibility for my thoughts

I choose victory. What do you choose?

Continue to live from the inside out. God Bless.

 

Successful Living – Be You

Hey guys !

In 2017 choose to be you! This month I turned 37 years old! Oh my!  As a teenager I remember thinking 30 was old! I clearly remember when I turned 25 and 30 crying to my friend about how old I was getting! Ha ha! Like really Jiselle! 37 does not feel as old as I thought it would feel. Now, turning 37,  just highlights to me that I have so much I need to get done.  I feel like I have lived this long already and have so many things I still need to do.

I never thought at 37 years I could be so content not doing what I desired to do at 21 years old.  At an early age, maybe  seven or eight years old I decided I wanted to be an Accounting executive.  Today I am blogging, writing, serving in ministry at church, operating in different avenues of sales and more. In everything I do I feel like me. I don’t feel like anything I am doing now is outside of who I am.

I spent so much of my life trying to fit in.  It’s only when I chose to be me,  I finally feel free and content. Sometimes being you means you will stand out, and look different from others around you. It’s okay!

woman looking at art

We are constantly conditioned to live in mediocrity or with a barely getting by mentality.  As someone who has always desired more from life, it seems like I have to constantly fight to be who I know I am. Others that have decided to settle for less, try to encourage me to do what they are doing, or tell me I want too much.

But I have this fire within that desires more and refuses to let me settle for less. I decided some time ago that I am not going to stop being me anymore to accommodate the limitations others have placed on themselves.  I always get excited when I hear someone talk of doing and being more and I intend to continue to be that way.

Are you pretending to be someone you are not to fit in?

It’s okay to stand out Yes, you may constantly be under attack by others. Yes, you may look different, but I have found it more rewarding being me than pretending to be who I am not. There is joy, peace and inner fulfillment you can’t get from anything else when you just be your true self.

I want to make a positive impact worldwide. My wish is to motivate people to become better and do better, to show others the goodness of God.  I continue to acknowledge the goodness of God in my life; he has kept me and brought me through so many seasons of my life and continues to keep me daily.   In this season of my life I submit to the hand of God on my life. My desire is that he continues to shape me into that which he called me to be.

I choose to continue to press forward to attain and become that which I see, hear and feel within.

Today I encourage you, whatever stage in your life you are at, be you. Yes, it’s okay, stand out,  if that is what it means to be you.

God Bless!

 

 

 

Successful Living – As you Have Sowed Expect to Reap

Hey guys!
Happy 2017 to you! I am so happy to have been blessed to make it into this New Year. During Christmas week last year I started thinking; what have I sowed?

True story: I took a taxi Christmas eve to collect some goods. I ended up in the middle between a guy, and a girl with braided hair. I said to myself: my hair is too cute to get stuck next to this guy for the breeze to blow it all over because he wants fresh air!

Do you know, as soon as we got to the windy area he looked across at me then put up his window! ….okay! I had to lean over and ask the girl to wind up her window. Can you imagine! Now her braids were freshly done so I know she could not have forgotten not wanting her hairstyle be ruined by excessive wind.

I started thinking would she want someone else to do that to her? I hope she could reap what she sowed! As soon as we left the excessive windy area she put back down the window. Like really! Is she serious! The guy on the other hand looks across realises it’s still quite windy and keeps his window up. He also gives her a long look, I think he almost shook his head.   I definitely had to swallow my assumptions about him. I had judged him based on his gender without waiting for any other information. 

So now I start thinking some more… (it was a half hour drive!) I wonder who thought that about me?   I wonder what I have done to others that have been hurtful or annoying?  Have I been thoughtful of other people’s feelings?

 
There is a law that we sometimes forget, the law of sowing and reaping. Some people say “what goes around comes around”. The bible says: There is seed time and harvest. Proverbs 11:25 A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. 2 Corinthians 9:6 The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.

My thoughts were; what have I sowed in the past that I’m reaping now ? Have you ever wondered about the good and bad that you have or haven’t done? Are you harvesting from what you sowed in 2015 or 2014. We cannot decide when we receive the harvest, but we must be aware that this law doesn’t take holidays. It is always in effect and doesn’t discriminate.

Now I am no saint yet (He he!), so some things came to mind where I could have done better! (I’m sorry, but Jesus did die for me!) So as I contemplated, I saw where I could have done things differently. I purposed in my heart to do better immediately because I certainly was not about to reap a harvest I did not want. I could not do anything about what had already passed but I could certainly make sure my future looked different.

As I listened to my Pastor’s new years eve message last night she spoke about this law. Pastor asked us:

  • What have you done for the kingdom of God with a pure heart?
  • What should you have done that you didn’t do?
  • Did you choose to stay on the path God led or did you divert because of what others said or did?

Pastor reminded us that nobody has an excuse to do wrong, as everyone knows right from wrong from youngest to oldest. We were also reminded, we cannot use what someone else did or didn’t do as an excuse, as we are responsible for our own salvation. Do you continue to knowingly do what is wrong but expect a good result?

I wondered…. did I get it right? How many times do things come to our minds to do for someone or tell someone and we ignore it. I understand all this is part of sowing. It is not simply only doing wrong or right as we sometimes think, but in fact doing what we are led to do. Do we miss out on opportunities because we haven’t sowed opportunity into others when we could?

As I continue to think I am reminded of a few things :
  • It is our responsibility to be more aware of how we treat others.
  • Do we abuse other people’s time and property without thought, but want the best for ourselves?
  • Do we constantly speak negative to, or about others?
  • Are we giving our best efforts in projects we undertake?
  • Are you constantly insubordinate to your boss?
  • Can people trust you with confidential information?
  • How many people in 2016 can say they are happy they met us?
  • Does anyone remember that lady/guy that held the door or paid for their taxi fare?
  • Does anyone remember fondly the person who always has a smile on their face?
  • Should we expect positive words to come our way because that is what we sowed? 

I am always amazed when I am walking my street, many of my neighbours drive past in their vehicles, some blow their horns, some wave, some pass straight. Then there are people who I have never spoken to, and they don’t even live in the same street that stop and give me a lift. It always baffles me and I always think will I do that to others?

2017 has begun and I feel encouraged, as my Pastor said, we have another opportunity to get things right. As long as we have life we can choose to do better and be better.  I think we should arise everyday and choose to do good, live intentionally.  As I continue to press toward that mark I urge you as well to continue on your journey. Yes at times you get tired, but experiencing the joy of a life well lived is so much more rewarding than a life of mere existence. Well, that’s what I believe!

God bless!

Question: What do you believe and how are your beliefs working for you?