Successful Living – To Fear or Not to Fear?

Hey guys it’s me again,

So I’ve been thinking about fear.

What is fear really?

Why does it show up?

How can we get rid of it?

Are there any signs to know it’s coming?

I have to confess….. these thoughts and questions came up because even though I’ve posted for a few months I still take a long time before I hit that publish button! Why?  You may be asking. well if you have read any of my earlier posts you know I write about my life experiences, thoughts etc. It’s basically me inside out in cyber space for all to read.

I don’t know how others do it daily but it has had me pausing lengthily between posts.

Now I do write on paper but it takes a bit for it to get into cyber space. It’s quite okay when you look okay on the outside and no one knows your thoughts or experiences.

However quite another when there is a continuous exposure of your thoughts feelings and mistakes for people you know and don’t know to see.

Now when I put my thoughts down on paper it seems to help a lot, but really Lord can’t I still write about skin care or may be weight loss and publish those? …… okay does that silence on the matter mean no ?

So another confession… every time I write I get that inner……. you know… satisfaction? Every time I write I know I move closer to that place that I am going but don’t know the address for. I just know it’s where I need to go.

So many times we choose to stay at the wrong address. We choose to not do the things that will take us out of our comfort zones and into the unknown. We can never be fully satisfied in comfort zone, something will always be missing.  Only purpose will bring you that thing that you are looking for.

Every time I hit that publish button I expose myself some more, but I also learn more about myself in the process of writing.

I read somewhere that you overcome fear by doing that which you are fearful of.

I’ve also heard many speakers,writers and successful persons in general  say fear always shows up anytime something new is about to be attempted.

What is fear? says fear is :

  • a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc.,whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
  • something that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; something person is afraid of.
  • to consider or anticipate (something unpleasant) with a feeling of dread or alarm.
  • Some say False Evidence Appearing Real.
  • Others say it’s a story you told yourself about something that may happen in the future.


  • I remember one speaker saying if you are going to do something new and it does not scare you then you are aiming too low set new goals!
 cartoons showing fear
Why does it show up anyway?

Does it sense we are about to make a life changing move?

That someone or something is going to be forever changed because of us? Maybe it realises we will mend a broken relationship by finally speaking our true feelings to that person.

I think it shows up because it can and most people don’t let it know it’s not welcome.

Questions to ponder:
  • Are you afraid of doing or of what others may say because of what you are doing?
  • Is it fear of standing out? Not looking like everyone else around you?
  • Are you thinking you can’t make a difference, it’s too small to count or too little to matter?
  • Are you depriving us of your gift and blaming it on fear? Don’t use fear as an excuse not to do, it really loves that!
  • Remember instances when you were blessed by someone’s book, speech, smile, word of encouragement, meal, blog post, hug, gift, movie etc. ( I could go on) how did you feel when you received it?  Again, who is waiting on you? Who has prayed and said there must be an answer but you refuse to see what you have to offer as of great value.
Overcoming Fear
  • Make small moves daily forward.
  • Release your fear and hold on to your desire/passion
  • Is your perspective correct? My pastor asked us last week : “Are you looking at your life through clean lens?” Are you looking with the right information? Do you need better or more info?
  • According to NIKE “Just do it!” – it often comes down to this one for me. I have to end up just jumping in already! When you do you wonder what you were making all that fuss for!
  • Surrounding yourself with persons who will speak positively into your life is always a plus.
  • Speak to yourself, for goodness sake let your voice be louder than what fear is saying. (I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!) check out my earlier post I declare. I feel like I can fly sometimes when I’m done.
  • What are you feeding yourself? Is it I can or I can’t?
  • Study people who did what you want to do and succeeded. Success leaves clues.
  • Let it know whether it shows up or not it does not alter the decision already made to move forward.
  • When I face things that cause me to feel fear I try to remember past instances when I thought I couldn’t do something but I did and succeeded or maybe I failed (at least I had the guts to try!).
  • Commit to do. Plan and execute. I commit to writing two blog posts every month for the next 3 months and then once per week.

Now you may be saying:  Really Jiselle that’s it? Those things are so easy to write, I need real things I can do! I promise you can do what you have said you can’t using what I’ve written above.

So are you going to wait for fear to leave? or are you going to do that thing anyway with fear standing next to you ?

Take back that power you have given to that four letter word and use it to propel you forward.

Remember the presence of fear does not mean you can’t do.

So I urge you today to do that which you have delayed to do. Be the change agent you have been called to be. Let your voice be heard.

Hit that publish button continually! I promise with every step it gets easier to hit publish once you let go of fear and focus on purpose.  Don’t miss the opportunity for new and better things by staying in that safe mediocre lane, instead launch out for big! God bless!!

22 thoughts on “Successful Living – To Fear or Not to Fear?”

  1. I think fear plagues me, and I have to continually remind myself to let go of things I cannot control. Keep hitting that publish button love! #ByHisGraceBloggers

  2. Awesome message!! And I agree, and as a blogger as well, it does get less and less scary to put yourself out there, and the rewards are SO worth it!

  3. Great post, I am literally the most fearful person ever, I am scared of everything, all animals, especially dogs, the sea, heights, fire, you name it. However, online I am a different person and am never fearful of blogging or talking in groups. Odd isn’t it? Must be the virtual world nature to it xx

  4. Great advice! I think when writing you have to go to go all these deep, dark emotional places in order to be honest. It’s an ongoing process and perhaps the best therapy.

  5. Such a sweet and supportive post! I think so many people these days end up “filtering” themselves in public spaces online, but authenticity is so refreshing.
    xo, SC //

  6. That’s a really insightful post I am taking risks I never thought I’d take, trying to overcome fear so that I can follow the path of my dreams. It’s so easy to conform and be like everyone else but where is the pleasure in that. Life’s too short.

  7. Fear is a biggie, isn’t it? I’ve struggled with fear that was almost paralyzing at different points in my life and I can tell you it’s no fun. I’ve learned to quote 2 Timothy 1:7 “God has not given us a Spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.” I find when I rest in him, that fear HAS to leave.

  8. This is a great article, really positive and it touches on some very important points. I read somewhere that the only 2 basic emotions of every human are fear and love (affection), which have helped us survive from an evolutionary point of view. And I believe in small doses even fear can be healthy, as long as we don’t let it overrun our lives.

  9. As an adult child of an alcoholic, a first generation college student, and having one failed marriage under my belt, I have made a lot of choices based on fear. But fear never brought me any closer to my dreams. I had to learn to take baby steps to build a better life for myself. Life is scary whether we make our choices based on fear or based on excitement over all of the possibilities <3

  10. Fear is involved in any aspect of our life, but when it comes to moving alone, I think it’s worth it, because only then we will learn the real meaning of life and how it is to be on your own, it really strengthens the person 🙂 Great article, I enjoyed it 🙂

  11. A agree with you that fear can keep us from discovering great things in our life. It is hard sometimes and no one is perfect but we should face it head on. Easier said than done!

  12. I like your questions and thoughts. Particularly the idea of depriving someone of our gift if we do not overcome fear. It’s all about honouring our true selves and not giving in to false critical inner voices.

  13. “Let go of your fear and hang on to your passion.” YES! Finding that passion, that thing that drives us forward, will help us push through so many challenges. Great post, lovely lady.

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